The founders who last aren’t the ones who push hardest. They’re the ones who find a pace they can sustain.
Most founders set an unsustainable pace because they believe they have no choice. It works, for a while! Then the pace burns them out, and they’re done. I know because I lived it, as an a16z-backed founder and early product leader at Slack.
When I faced stress, I believed I had no choice but to push through it.
When I faced conflict, I believed I had no choice but to push for my way—or silence myself to keep the peace.
When I faced failure, I believed I had no choice too: that my career was over if I couldn’t prove my value next time around.
It took being fired from two of the best jobs I ever had to realize none of these beliefs were true.
The truth was I always had a choice. I could have directly addressed the sources of my stress and set a sustainable pace. It was just a matter of a few hard conversations. But it didn’t seem possible: I told myself avoiding those conversations was the responsible choice.
The truth was I was living in fear. I was so afraid of failing I had forgotten why I loved this work in the first place! So I started leading with love instead of fear. What would make me proud of how I led? What kind of relationships would I cultivate with my team? What impact did I hope to make on the world?
The truth was I wasn’t sure yet. So instead of waiting to be sure, I started experimenting and proving how I could make an impact. I interviewed for prestigious startup exec and VC roles, but I struggled to get excited about them. Coaching as a career was barely on my radar at the time!
But I couldn’t deny the deep fulfillment I felt when I helped my first client see possibility where none existed before. I’m coming up on 10 years of coaching this year, and my sense of purpose is still as strong as ever.